Video Intro to Highways of the Mind

Monday, June 21, 2010

Highways of the Mind {Intro}

Highways of the Mind

Make Your Dreams a Reality


I've done intensive research over the last 10 years on mind enhancing techniques and the ones I use for my own endeavors work for me and will work for anyone who has a problem they want to overcome or a dream they want to achieve. You can banish bad habits and replace them with powerful positive good habits. You can learn to do things in moderation, stop procrastinating, schedule your time efficiently, and move towards your dreams and aspirations. Nothing is impossible just harness your mind's power and use my simple techniques. You'll find them all right here in this book.
What I'm giving you is ten years of research put into simple terms and made easy to follow. I hate it when an author tries to show his intellect using ten letter words that are hard to comprehend. I'll do my best to present my material in a way that you can easily understand. I have always felt that the easy way is the best way and most comfortable way to learn. If you are like most people I know, you learn easier if you have someone show you the way.
I'm going to show you the way to make all your dreams come true. We are going to take a trip through the highways and byways of your mind. Your mind is the solution of all solutions it's where all solutions begin. You can be anything, do anything and have everything by changing your way of thinking. . I'll give you the steps that brought me success and show you how to use them as powerful tools to reach and maintain a positive optimal lasting change in your life.
Regardless of what has happened in your life accept the fact that it was you, and only you, that made it possible. No matter what your circumstance is in life, you are there because you were or you were not in command. It has become apparent to me that negative thoughts are the easiest thoughts for our subconscious mind to accept, so we're going to change that and make positive thoughts the most predominate and dominating resources that enter your subconscious mind. Make up your mind that from this day forward you will be in complete command of your thoughts and actions. Read what I've written, learn from what I've written and put what I've written into positive action.
Here is what you'll find when you open the cover and enter my book. The first section under the title of "Trivia and definition of terms used in good faith and abused unintentionally" introduces you to all the different mind enhancing methods that I use to change your way of thinking. You will be given a little trivia and some background information on each method. I'll also introduce you to some new terminology, it's important that you know what I'm talking about.
It is of vital importance that you set goals and make definite plans to carry them out, so stop one setting goals and making plans will be the topic. As we proceed further and further, on this journey to success, things will get more exhilarating and exciting. Each step will bring you closer to a solution that will take you all the way to success.
While we are at stop two: I will address nutrition and health under the title of Fitness. Success can be so much more rewarding if you have a healthy body and a healthy mind. I can't stress enough the importance of staying active. Strive to become physically fit and make it a habit to stay that way. Believe me; if you are healthy and feel good about yourself everything else you do will be that much easier. So change your way of thinking and make it a habit to establish healthy habits.
Proper nutrition is also important in maintaining a healthy body and mind. There are six main classes of nutrients that the body needs: carbohydrates, proteins, fats, vitamins, minerals, and water. It is important to consume these six nutrients on a daily basis to build and maintain a healthy body.
This next stop is devoted to Faith, the Mind and the Spirit and I've given it the title Faith.
We live in a world where the majority of the people don't except things by faith alone. You might say we are a society of "I'll believe it when I see it" kind of people. The "show me and I'll believe" attitude is for all intents and purposes an error because no creation is ever manifested before it's beginning. However this attitude is defended by many as being realistic. Faith is involved in almost every mind enhancement program there is. If you put faith in the equation the equation will work. There is no doubt in my mind about it; faith is an issue that deserves a whole lot of thought.
I'll be working with you in three specific areas; Body, Mind and Soul. The stop at faith will also deal with the soul and it's relation to infinite intelligence. What exactly is the soul? It is hard to explain. It could be the fundamental emotional and activating principle determining one's character. On the other hand, in religion it is the deepest part of the soul of man and the transmitting organ by which human beings can contact God. I will take you deep into this subject, not only at this stop but at other stops along the way. Your beliefs may be quite different then mine and that's quite all right. I want you to read what I've written with an open mind and consideration.
Stop four is the junction point at the conclusion of this chapter we will change tracks and go to stop five, the meat of the book. However stop four is about Denial and it is an issue that is a must. Emotional denial in the short term is a way to avoid hurting our self and people we care about. However it also keeps people from taking action when the overall happiness of their life is at stake. Denial is a reason people keep themselves trapped in unhappy relationships or life situations.
Now that I have taken you on a short tour, it's time to take action and go to work.

Trivia and definition of terms used in good faith and abused unintentionally.
This simply means that if I don't agree with the resource I use my own definition.
Auto suggestion applies to all suggestion and all self administered thoughts and ideas that reach the mind through our senses. Auto suggestion and self suggestion are basically the same. Simply put, it is a way for the conscious mind to communicate with the subconscious mind.
We have complete control over all the thought that reaches our subconscious mind, therefore it is the best way to change the way we think. We can completely change our life using a few simple steps. You can liken your subconscious mind to that of a fertile garden in which weeds will grow in abundance if the seeds are not desirable.
Repetition and retention amplifies and intersects with sense. I use them both to help me memorize and write.
Repetition is nothing more than repeating a thought until it becomes an obsession.
Obsessions are recurring or persistent thoughts, images, or impulses that invade a person's consciousness.
Memories are constructions made in accordance with present needs, desires, influences, etc.

Memories are often accompanied by feelings and emotions.
Intuition is the ability to sense or know immediately without reasoning.
Meditation is a deep relaxed state of mind still conscious and aware.
Reminiscence refers to recollections of memories from the past. It is familiar to us all and can be utilized for the benefit of others.
Motivation is a reason or set of reasons for engaging in a particular behavior.
Imagination is the ability to form mental visual images.
Now that you know the words and their definitions the trip will be a lot easier.
I have got one more term that I use as my secret weapon. I let you know how and why when the timing is right.
Subliminal messages give positive affirmations and send them directly to the subconscious mind, bypassing the more critical conscious mind.
What you will learn within the walls of this castle of words will become a part of your life for the rest of your life. Changing your life for the better things in life is a new beginning. For new beginnings to flourish and grow they must be maintained. I'll give you the proper tools to make positive changes and maintenance tools to maintain these changes. However, there is one tool missing that you will have to supply, the tool that gets rid of bad habits and cements good habits in place. I'll help you make this tool, it is a simple process, but one that is necessary. It's up to you to use these tools every day all the way to the end of your life journey. Make them a definite habit!
Now let's continue on to the next stop on Minds Highway. It's a place called Goals. You can't miss it; all of its inhabitants are making plans one way or another.

Highways of the Mind {Stop One}

Stop One:
Setting Goals and Making Plans

I want you to spend a substantial amount of time and effort establishing your goals. I'm sure that you will find as I have found that all of the rich and famous and those truly successful have set goals to get them where they are today. Setting goals is first and utmost the most important part of your journey to success and financial freedom.
There are two kinds of goals that I want you to work on. First short term goals (goals that you want to reach in a year) and second long term goals (goals that are extended five years or more).
Make a list of all the things that you want to achieve at the end of one year. Make it flexible and as realistic as possible. Don't waste your time planning for something that is out of reach or improbable.
Finding success in whatever you endeavor is why it’s so important to set goals and make plans to carry them out. You could say that goals are the keys that will open the doors to your dreams. Actually goals are nothing more than realistic dreams put into words and the plan is putting those words into action. Put your dreams in writing and then develop a time frame in which to accomplish them. Most people spend more time dreaming of success then they do planning for success.
By writing your goals down and displaying them in plain view where you can read them several times each day your sub conscious mind will absorb them and consequently you'll become more accountable for them. Sharing you goals with another person can also increase your commitment.
The winners are people who experience success by doing a lot of goal setting. They use setting goals to learn new skills and gain experience. Once they've achieved a goal, they pick another. For the successful people, goal setting never stops. Goal setting is like buying real estate, after you reach the first horizon all other horizons come easier. Did you ever wonder why the rich keep getting richer and more powerful? It's because they set goals and make the right plans to achieve those goals.
It's important for you to explore and plan for what you most desire. The goals and dreams that you set keep the body mind and spirit alive and optimistic. Setting personal goals should employ all the circumstances of your life, such as health, spirituality, family and relationships just to name a few.
Again I can't stress enough how vitally important this session on goals is. It's short and sweet and to the point and believe it or not it will help you tremendously.
You’re starting out on a brand new adventure so let’s get you started on the right foot. Let's do some serious soul searching to figure out what it is you’re willing to do to succeed. What direction are you heading in right now? Are you where you want to be in life? It’s time for you to stop procrastinating and get working. Make your goals, set your plans and let’s get started in the right direction.
Get a diary or a Franklin Covey planner and track your achievements. If you don’t know the direction you’re heading in, then how do you expect to get there?
You've got to implement your plan if you want to get exactly what you want. It's time to get your rear end headed in the right direction. Don't talk the talk, get yourself motivated and walk the walk.
Don't be afraid of failing the fear of failure holds most people back. I look at failure as part of the learning process. If you fail at first pick yourself up and start all over. If you don't hold back and you put your plans into action you’re going to find success in whatever you do
Get into the habit of setting and achieving your goals, by knowing specifically what you want to accomplish, you will know where you have to focus your efforts. You'll also quickly spot the distractions that would otherwise detour you from your objective.
Keep yourself focused and don't get caught up in everything going on around you. Keep your sights set clearly on your goals. Remind yourself and apply yourself to utilize the most productive and profitable use of your time, after all time is precious; it's the only thing that keeps passing us by.
A goal well thought and planned will give you long-term vision and short-term inspiration. It will help you focus on gaining more knowledge and help you utilize your time so that you can make the most out of your life span
The more goals you set, the more you’ll accomplish, by setting goals, you will also raise your self-confidence, by recognizing the fact that you can achieve the goals that you’ve set.
As we continue this trip through my book you’ll arrive at a place called meditation. In meditation I have set up a few exercises that will enable you to put your goals in your subconscious mind as positive resources. First I’ll guide you step by step through a relaxation exercise that will put you in a light hypnotic state. While you are in that state we’ll do an exercise using affirmations as self suggestions placing these affirmations in your subconscious mind and your subconscious mind will feed them to your conscious mind when the timing is right.
Please don’t jump ahead, I want you to stay with me, we still have a lot to learn while we are on the highways and byways of the mind.
The next stop is a place called Fitness.

Highways of the Mind {Stop Two}


Let me congratulate you for seeking information that will improve your way of living. I’m sure it was quite by accident but you’ve stumbled into the right place. With a little bit of my help and your determination there’s no way you can lose. The next step is to decide that you are going to be physically and mentally fit. This place called Fitness is intended to help you reach that decision and make it one of your goals.

Staying fit mentally and physically takes a lifelong commitment involving time and effort. Exercising the mind and body has to be done regularly without question. Being happy and healthy is a positive resource that can easily be planted in your subconscious mind. Convincing yourself of all the benefits of a healthy mind and body by using self suggestion techniques will insure your success.

When starting out on a new exercise program I want you to realize that patience is essential. It took years of sedentary living to put you in the shape that you’re in so you won’t regain what you’ve lost overnight.( Correct me if I’m wrong but I’m assuming that you are not in the best physical shape.) The secret is to persevere and the reward is well worth waiting for.

Let me give you my definition of physical fitness; being physical fit is the ability to perform at your highest peak. You will look, react and feel like the fine tuned engine of a luxury automobile. Nothing will pass your attention and nothing will pass you by.

Before you start a vigorous exercise program make sure you don’t have any physical limitations. If you are over thirty five years old make sure you get a physical examination. Let the Doctor get you started on the right foot. Success of any kind is done a step at a time so put your right foot forward.

It is important to remember that fitness is influenced by age, sex, habits, exercise and diet; therefore it varies from person to person. When you set up a schedule for a routine exercise program set it up to meet your own particular needs. If you are not Samson looking to impress Delilah don’t go to the extreme.

Keep moving for better health. Walking at a moderate pace can reduce the storage of fat in your body, running or jogging is even better. It is a known fact that people who exercise by jogging, walking, or running store less fat in their bodies then the people that don’t. Less fat means lower rates of diabetes and therefore less heart related diseases.

After all is said and done there really is only one sure fire way to begin and maintain a fitness program. Believe it or not it all has to start with a firm commitment burned like a brand into your subconscious and conscious mind...

Here are a few guide lines that will help you gain and maintain a healthy body and mind. Believe me, they both work together and each feeds the other.

WARMUP - 5-10 minutes of exercises such as walking, slow jogging, knee lifts, arm circles or trunk rotations. Low intensity movements that stimulate movements to be used in the activity can also be included in the warm-up.

MUSCULAR STRENGTH - Do a minimum of two 20-minute sessions per week that include exercises for all the major muscle groups. Lifting weights is the most effective way to increase strength.

MUSCULAR ENDURANCE - At least three 30-minute sessions each week that include exercises such as calisthenics, pushups, sit-ups, pull-ups, and weight training for all the major muscle groups.

CARDIORESPIRATORY ENDURANCE – Do at least three 20-minute bouts of continuous aerobic (activity requiring oxygen) rhythmic exercise each week. Popular aerobic conditioning activities include brisk walking, jogging, swimming, cycling, rope-jumping, rowing, cross-country skiing, and some continuous action games like racquetball and handball.

FLEXIBILITY - 10-12 minutes of daily stretching exercises performed slowly without a bouncing motion. This can be included after a warm-up or during a cool down.

COOL DOWN - A minimum of 5-10 minutes of slow walking.

Change your way of thinking and make these activities a part of your life for the rest of your life. Use the exercises that I have outlined for you to firm this commitment

Your body and your mind are loving companions that want to take good care of each other. Using the power of positive suggestion the mind will keep the body physically happy and by the same token the physically happy body will help keep the mind active and alert. Keep this thought in mind and you will have a successful journey from the day you begin until the day you reach your destination.

Proper nutrition is also important in maintaining a healthy body and mind. There are six main classes of nutrients that the body needs: carbohydrates, proteins, fats, vitamins, minerals, and water. It is important to consume these six nutrients on a daily basis to build and maintain a healthy body. This isn’t hard to do if you combine your main dish with veggies, soup, and a salad topped off with a glass of water or juice. Eat small amounts and eat when you’re hungry. If you haven’t taken care of your mind and body for a long time exercise and nutrition have been in the trunk, now is the time to take them out and put them back to work.

It is a fact that improving the awareness of nutritious meal choices and establishing long-term habits of healthy eating has a positive effect on memory capacity, potentially increasing your ability to process and retain critical information. It is also a fact that physical fitness has the same effect. Now you know why I’ve included this section in my text.

The mind is the key to the vehicle that travels the roads and byways of time. While traveling the highway that leads to success don’t let the boulders and obstacles that clutter the highway cause you to detour. Take a straight road to your success and fix all the problems that get in your way.
Our next stop on our little journey is in a place called Faith. You can’t miss it, there’s a little white church on the corner and the congregation is singing Amazing Grace.

Highways of the Mind {Stop Three}


Faith Can Move Mountains

Our mountains are our circumstances. We can change any circumstance in our lives. All we have to do is have enough faith to believe when we pray; God can move those mountains away.

We live in a world where the majority of the people don’t except things by faith alone. You might say we are a society of “I’ll believe it when I see it” kind of people. The “show me and I’ll believe” attitude is for all intents and purposes a misconception because no creation is ever observed before it’s beginning. However this attitude is defended by many as being realistic. Which I believe is the exact opposite of faith. Faith sees the possibility of all things; the world we live in depends on positive belief, hope, and faith to continue. Negativity breeds destruction. If we depended on cynicism and negative thought, we would self destruct and cease to exist. Vision and belief come first and action follows. Visualize your dreams and desires and your mind will open the door to make them real.

It is my belief that there is a quiescent (inactive or dormant) part of your brain that when aroused will give you the potential to achieve heights beyond your imagination. All we have to do is use the right key to unlock that power. I have several keys that we can use. However first I want you to consider the primary purpose for which you are, presumably, reading “Highways and Byways of the Mind”. Naturally, it must be to acquire the ability to help yourself and stay free of those monsters that have invaded your life. By following my instructions on auto suggestion and the subconscious mind, as I have laid out for you in the section titled Auto Suggestion, you can convince your mind to receive that for which you ask. It will act upon your suggestion which your subconscious mind passes back to you in the form of faith.

Faith is the state of mind which you may develop at will, after you have mastered all the steps in my text, because it is a state of mind which develops voluntarily, through applying and using these steps.

The most powerful of all human emotions are Faith, Love and Sex. When faith is mixed with the vibration of thought the subconscious mind picks up the vibration, translates it into its spiritual equivalent and transmits it to Infinite Intelligence, as in prayer. To allow wisdom to flow in freely from God's infinite intelligence is wise. Wisdom is the inflowing of the divine spirit itself.

Spirituality, in a narrow sense, concerns itself with matters of the spirit. What exactly is the spirit? It is hard to explain. It could be the fundamental emotional and activating principle determining one's character. On the other hand, in religion it is the deepest part of the soul of man and the transmitting organ by which human beings can contact God. My interpretation is a little of both, a person’s character and the deepest part of their soul that links between human and God. The spirit therefore, is ones inner self. The spirit is the foundation of one’s humanity and at life’s end the spirit leaves the body. Therefore the spirit and the soul are pretty much the same. You die and your spirit/soul moves on. However while you are alive you are the spirit. The hopeful truth remains that there is an eternal flame of the spirit in all of us and if we tend to it and give it nourishment we have the ability to create and change the world in a positive way.

Now I’d say that’s really not so complicated. When I say I want to help heal your spirit basically I want to help heal the whole you, Body, “Mind, and Spirit.”

Let’s talk about Peace, Serenity, and Tranquility. Can you remember the last time that you took a moment to gaze at the sky or look at the ocean and see all the beauty they bestow .How about watching the leaves on a tree dancing in the wind or lovely flowers glistening in the sun? When you allow yourself to soak in and appreciate these peaceful moments, you can experience instant peace and tranquility. I call these moments’ natures’ relievers. Good music, works of art, poetry and literature are also nature’s relievers and a tool for instant relief from misery and pain.

It’s easy to meditate using nature’s relievers experiencing the simple beauty that is everywhere around us. Close your eyes and inwardly embrace the magnificence of all the natural surroundings the Real World has to offer. I know in the hectic world you live in you probably don’t have time for such nonsense. Life circumstances have robbed you of the joy you should be experiencing in life. When you feel anxious or stressful, take a moment and realize all the good things that you are missing, then respond in a positive manner to the dynamic glories around you and rejuvenate yourself in rebirth.

This is what I sincerely believe and for no other reason than LOVE I want you to listen to me. I believe in what's solid and firm, something that's not a mystery and is easy to confirm. I believe in LOVE. I'm not sure that the Holy Bible was written under the influence of God and I don't know for sure that from here there's a hereafter. There's one thing for sure that I do know and that's the power of Love and how it can grow. Hate, disagreement and turmoil are a few of the things that cause war and destruction. Whereas, true Love given is the quickest way to peace and serenity. Whether God sits somewhere above us on his throne to guide and direct us is still a mystery to me. I know for sure that if the foundation of our life is fortified with LOVE we will have a great destiny.

There's a God in my heart and I call my GOD LOVE and my God's as strong and as powerful as anything that comes from above. Love is not something that you need blind faith just to know that it's there. If you open your eyes you'll see it everywhere. I believe in LOVE and that's one thing I want to share. If you love yourself and others, Peace and Serenity will surely be yours from the beginning to the end of your life journey.

Success, whether measured in business, family or love, is often determined by the "right" attitude. Unfortunately, maintaining that proper frame of mind, a positive attitude, isn't always easy. Sometimes, in spite of our best efforts, life just seems intent on bringing us down. Inspiration, however, is rarely far away - if we are but willing to look for it. No one is ever born into life alone. Everyone has shared the bond of family, at least at birth, and for many people it is a bond that will follow them throughout life. For many people it is the most important bond of all. No one person can ever experience all that life has to offer. It is only through sharing experiences, feelings and insights that we can hope to grow beyond our own meager lifetime.

If Jimmy Carter did nothing else for us as a president, his statement on faith was quite profound.

“I have one life and one chance to make it count for something . . . I'm free to choose what that something is, and the something I've chosen is my faith. Now, my faith goes beyond theology and religion and requires considerable work and effort. My faith demands -- this is not optional -- my faith demands that I do whatever I can, wherever I am, whenever I can, for as long as I can with whatever I have to try to make a difference”.

Well My Friend, I’m glad you are still with me! I hope you are enjoying your trip along the highway of the mind. As we make these stops, on our event filled journey, pick up what you have learned and take it with you. Remember, learning is knowledge and knowledge is power. Our next stop is in a place called Denial. I don’t think anybody lives there; anyway, no one will admit it.

Highways of the Mind {STop Four}

Stop Four


Before we visit Denial let me set the record straight. I’m doing this because I want you to know me, trust me and have complete faith in me. I want to be your friend in every sense of the word. It is time I reveal my true station in life and I hope you will understand and stay with me. I was an alcoholic and substance abuser for ten long years of my life. I lived in a place that I call the Gray World, a place for the outcasts from the Real World. I won’t go into my story but I found a reason to change and move back into the Real World. I now live a happy, successful, active and productive life and I have dedicated the rest of my life to help others do the same.

Some of the content that you’ll find in this book was originally directed to the abuser. However as I grew in knowledge and wisdom I found that the techniques that I use in this book (They same techniques that saved my life and has since saved hundreds of lives) will work in any situation or circumstance. Therefore I have broadened my dedication to help anyone and everyone with a true desire to change their way of life for the better things in life. Now if you are still with me let’s continue.

Denial is used as a block out tool to avoid self hurt and hurting those that we care about. It keeps people from facing the issue and finding solutions to take positive action when their overall happiness is at stake. People keep to themselves whiling in emotional denial not facing negative life situations and bitter relationships that keep them imprisoned in life’s circumstances. They are aware that the situation is not good, but not bad enough to face the problem and take positive action. Facing the brutal facts is important to eliminating unhappiness. To face the truth would mean acknowledging the fact that there is an emotional price to pay when you don’t find the solution to solve the problem. The person in denial will stay in denial until they face the cause of denial and nip it in the bud. Every day you don’t take action the problem will get worse. At worst it hurts, at best it keeps everything in an indeterminate state.

This isn’t a very high price when you’re living form moment to moment. However each fleeting moment can turn into a day and each day can turn into a week and before you know it time becomes a slow dying death for yourself and others. Your chance for happiness will be wasted away struggling to find a solution but while still in denial.

To find true happiness there has to be a means to deal with and eliminate unhappiness in our real life situations. Eliminating unhappiness means finding a way to take positive action. It is only by facing the real issues, changing your negative way of thinking to positive thought, eliminating unhappiness and replacing it with happiness that you’ll have a chance to build a new and better life. Facing the brutal facts is much more than putting on a happy face and acting happy, you have to overhaul your attitude and change your way of thinking.

Denial is an unconscious defense mechanism which is necessary for survival. None of us can survive without a certain amount of denial to keep us in balance. However denial in people who have a traumatic problem is taken to an extreme and becomes unhealthy in that it becomes an obstacle to their recovery. People have a tendency to go into denial when they need help. One reason for denial is that people generally do not like to feel helpless and out-of-control.

Denial in addiction is primarily difficult because the problem of the substance abuse plus denial and driving can be fatal for the abuser and others. In addition, some of the health risks associated with denial includes heart disease, lung and liver disease, overdosing and brain damage. But, no matter what the cause is of the denial, the important part is that the addict confronts the defense mechanism head on... Many times, for many reasons, the person suffering from denial will start to face their denial because their lives truly have become unmanageable.

I have researched many so called miracle and magical treatment programs to insure my recovery and success. I have found that most all of them are good to a point, unfortunately, at least to my knowledge none that I researched offered total recovery. It took a dedicated effort and perseverance, on my part, to find the right solutions. In other words, it takes pure guts and determination as well as the power of positive thinking and a complete change of mental behavior to find success in any endeavor.

The Junction Stop


This is an important message;


Did you ever wonder why most people never achieve their dreams and reach their ultimate goals? Some fear success and others have no self esteem. Then, in my opinion the worst are the procrastinators and the completely hopeless. If you give it some thought I'm sure that you can list many more reasons.

Goal setting is of vital importance for your success. You could say that goals are the keys that will open the doors to your dreams. Actually goals are nothing more than realistic dreams put into words and the plan is putting those words into action. Put your dreams in writing and then develop a time frame in which to accomplish them. Most people spend more time dreaming of success then they do planning for success.

As strange as it may seem we are all equal when it comes to the time we have available to us. We have 24 hours a day, whether we use it productively or waste it that’s entirely up to us. I frequently hear the complaint. "I just don’t have enough time to read your book and take all your steps." This is a cop out the truth is they don’t know how to manage their time or their desire for change is just not strong enough.

How well do you organize your time? I want you to make a list of how you spend your time in a 24 hour period. Start with how many hours you spent sleeping, the time you spend preparing meals and eating your meals, the time you spend getting ready for work, the amount of time you spend going and coming from work, and the hours you spend working, the time you spend watching TV and playing video games, the amount of time you spend on your computer, and finally the time you spend wasting time. Your total, more than likely, is much more than 24 hours .Determine where you can cut back or even eliminate some of these things. If you reduce the amount of time you watch TV, cut out your wasted time and cut back on the hours you sleep you'll have more than enough time to read Highways and Byways of the Mind and use the steps I‘m giving you to bring happiness and success into your life.

We have come to a junction on Highways of the Mind. So far we’ve visited four points of interest, places that will lay the foundation for your success in any endeavor you so desire. Take what you have learned from these four points of interest and add it to your bank of memories. Remember this; your condition health wise has to be recognized and treated. Your mind has to be attended to by removing all negative thoughts and replacing them with positive thoughts. Your spiritual attitude has to be overhauled to except faith and the existence of God. What it all boils down to is a complete change of your thinking. The reason it sounds complicated is because we as humans are complicate. That is why I direct my attention on the whole you, Body, Mind and Spirit. To attain success you need a true desire to accomplish your heart’s desire. Until you get serious about getting all of you fixed, you're likely to remain where you are, as you are, you must be totally committed if my plan or any other plan will work.

What I'm teaching you I learned from the best mind enhance people and programs in the business of mind enhancement. How can you fail with this kind of power, it is all right at your finger tips. If you are ready to change your way of thinking and start living a more productive life and you want to do it my way, which I believe is the easiest way. Then it's time you get serious. Ask yourself these three questions. (1) What will a total change of my minds way of thinking mean to me? (2) Can I make it my goal to change my way of thinking from negative thoughts to positive thoughts? (3) Am I willing to set aside everything else in my life to achieve this goal? Take a few minutes and let these three questions take over all thought. Close your eyes, take three deep breaths, become completely relaxed and let these three questions enter your subconscious mind. Answer these three questions with positive answers and commit them to memory. Read what I have written, absorb what I have written and use what I have written. When you have done this you have taken your first step to achieve success in whatever it is you want to achieve. Trust me; your mind can easily take care of all of the contributing factors.

We are here at the junction point to make the commitments that are going to change your life forever.

If you will let me, I’ll make this commitment to you; I will help you make the rest of your life the best of your life by giving you the steps that will change your way of thinking. Think positive thoughts and be the master of your destiny. Highways of the Mind (Make Your Dreams a Reality) is the master key that will open the door that ultimately leads to the achievement of all your goals and desires. Open the door now and make all your dreams come true.

To be successful in anything, you have to look in the future not in the past. Forget and forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made. Make a new beginning and let your mind know who you are, what you want from life, and where you want to go with your life, moving from the Gray World into the Real World is a blessing in disguise and new doors will open.

Life can be anything you want it to be, you have to make it happen. Set your dreams and goals high and look for new opportunities. You have a chance to do what you may have only dreamed of doing before. It takes strength and courage and the answers will come as you take that step forward and endeavor to move on. Starting over takes hard work and dedication but keep in mind the best things in life will be your reward.

We all have our problems and we can all make excuses. When it gets right down to it, which do we blame and what do we blame for our life circumstances? If you have an answer then I wish you’d tell me. If you have the right answer you don’t need my help.

Sincerely Yours, Big Daddy Cash

Mind Enhancement {Go to pages for more}

Mind Enhancement {Go to Pages for more}

I want you to realize that no success or self cure will endure for any length of time unless it is built upon honesty and integrity. Engage in no transaction that doesn’t benefit all of those it affects. You will find success in your own forces plus gain the cooperation of others. You will, by serving others, induce others to serve you. By eliminating the traits that cause a negative attitude in others as well as yourself and developing a love for all humanity you will regain the trust of others finding real happiness and a lifetime of success.


The Breathing Exercise is simple to do yet very effective. It can be done anytime of the day from where ever you are. I have made it a habit to use it several times a day when ever I think about it. It helps me to relax and function at top levels of efficiency.

Basically, this is what you do:

FIRST, clear your mind of everything. This includes worries, brought about by financial obligations, work stress, troubled relationships, everything and anything.

SECOND, Inhale through your nose as deeply as you possibly can.

THIRD, when you feel like you have reached your lungs maximum capacity, keep trying until you cannot breathe in anymore.

FOURTH, now hold it for a few seconds, and exhale through your mouth slowly, taking 3-4 seconds to fully exhale. Repeat this and keep doing it for as long as you feel able, I do this every morning when I get up and every evening before I go to bed. See if you can at least do this for 20 minutes a day.

Here is another way that I sometimes do deep breathing. I enjoy taking long walks so I breathe in deeply when I take 5 steps and slowly exhale when I take the next 10. I repeat this several times while enjoying my walk. Our life energy is carried in our breath and exerts its self on any given situation.

This practical effort to focus completely on our breathing, takes our minds away from the "mind clutter" that constantly tries to invade our minds and eliminate the feelings that will lead to a time of calmness and relaxation. With repeated effort the goal of clearing your mind (to think of nothing), does occur and the process of meditation takes on its own energy. The result is, and I guarantee this, peace, serenity, calmness and eventually opening yourself up to new insights.

Breathing exercises make it easier to do the relaxation exercises that prepare you for auto suggestion, meditation, self hypnosis and other mind enhancing exercises. They are simple, they take very little time and they put you in the right frame of mind. I suggest that you do breathing exercise at the start of any exercise that I present to you in this wonderful new world of exercises. I also suggest that all of the exercises I give to you be made a part of your life for the rest of your life.

Reminiscing goes hand in hand with the methods we are using here at this stop on the Highway of the mind. In the middle of the night when I'm all alone at my computer reminiscing has brought me strength and renewed the goals I once had. It has helped me tremendously and I know it can help you. Set aside a time when you feel at ease (At least once a week). If it does nothing else it will bring you countless hours of peace, relaxation, and joy.

Reminiscence refers to recollections of memories from the past. It is familiar to us all and can be utilized for the benefit of others. For people who are afflicted with problems of any nature I encouraging the act of reminiscence. It can be highly beneficial to your inner self and your interpersonal skills. Reminiscence involves exchanging memories with the old and young, friends and relatives, with caregivers and professionals, passing on information, wisdom and skills. It is about giving the person in need a sense of value, importance, belonging, power and peace. We all use it to cope in times of stress, such as mourning, it can also help reduce injury to our self image and it can create a feeling of intimacy and give special meaning to contact time with others.

I don’t recall mentioning this while I have been with you on this journey of ours but I love to write poetry and short stories. I'm encouraged by events of the past; these special events are brought to me when I reminisce. I love the magic of words and they give me a sense of power when I write. However through reminiscence you establishing identity with or without words, it's a good example of how we have to adapt, giving a valuable opportunity to acquire and use new skills of communication.

I can better explain how reminiscence works through the words of one of my poems;

As I sit here alone staring down at my keyboard

searching my mind for those magical words.

I look at the past and reminisce about all the good

things and good times that I’ve had.

I remember the time when the best was all mine.

My future was set and my goals were defined,

And everything was all going my way.

Everything that I had seemed solid.

Everything in my life seemed so pure.

I stare at my monitor and watch all of the yesteryears fly bye.

I look over at my printer and ask myself why.

Why oh why did these things pass me bye…

I miss my sweet spouse and the kids running round the


I miss my Blue Spruce and the yard that I groomed.

I miss the Bar B Q that I built and the family parties we had.

I miss it all, and my heart fills with tears as I think of

those years and the wonderful life I once had.

Then I say to myself "STOP" your life’s not over yet,

make the best of what you have left.

You’ve got friends galore and so many things to be thankful for.

You’re wiser now so share what you know and give help to those in need.

Show love and compassion to all of your friends and to all others.

Let your heart swell with joy and get rid of those tears.

There’s no room in your life to feel sorry for yourself the best in life is still yours.

So even though you felt lost now you’ve been found and it’s time to set yourself free.

If it’s going to be it’s all up to me and that’s the way it has to be.

If you've read and absorbed what I've written I want you to know that I wrote it just for people like you, with a true desire to find the best things in life and move in the right direction for the rest of your life... I know for a fact by your reading this far you are well on your way to living a life that is happy and financially free. Strengthen your conviction and stay on the path that will take you where you want to be.

A Moment of Mine

Recollections from the Past

My Grandmother used to sing a song to me . . . It went something like this; . . . A story I’m going to tell of a women old and gray . . . Walking the streets in the cold and the sleets at the end of a winters day. Quite weary she sank in a chair in front of a building grand . . . when a youth inside with over bearing pride came and ordered her away from there. Next door there stood a newsboy who owned a little stand . . . He saw the poor old lady ordered from the building grand . . . He ran inside his humble store as if in childish glee . . . He brought a chair from out the place with a smile upon his face . . . As these kind words he said; ...Take a seat old lady for you are welcome here . . . You’ll find it here and waiting when you pass this way . . . In silence she sat for awhile . . . poor soul she could scarcely speak . . . At last she arose and said with lips that were trembling blue . . . I’ll remember you lad once I had a boy like you . . .Well, three years have come and gone since then . . .the same old place we see. . . the boy received a letter wondering from whom it could be . . . She had died without a kin , . . Left her millions all to him . . . Through these kind words he said . . . Take a seat old lady for you are welcome here . . . you’ll find it here and welcome when you pass this way.

It’s really something, the things you remember when reminiscing in the middle of your night my grandmother used to sing a lot of songs like this and they all seem to have so much meaning. These are things that I haven’t thought about in well over 50 years. Yet I can hear them now as if she were here in person singing to me. Listen here’s another one...Once there was a Dutchman who invented a terrible machine. It ground long tail rats and pussycats into sausages and things... Oh Mr. Dundenbeck how could you be so mean...For long tail rats and pussy cats nare more will be seen...Their grounded into sausages on that terrible machine. Now something got the matter with the machine it wouldn’t work... So Dundenbeck got inside to see what he could do...His wife she had a night mare was walking in her sleep... She gave the crank one hell of a yank now Dundenbeck is meat. That’s probably not exactly how it went but isn’t it funny how things come back in the middle of the night.

Times when I’m all alone when all the work is done. These are the times when I reminisce bringing back sweet memories of days gone by. The mind is the key to the vehicle that travels the roads and byways of time. All these journeys and their detours that couldn’t be avoided come back in flashes. My mind takes me places that I had forgotten exist. The mystery is how the mind covers the hurts, disappointments, tragedies and heartbreaks with shadows so they vaguely appear. It seems like when I reminisce it’s of goodness and cheer and hardly ever of the bad things that bring up a tear.

Where am I going with this? I really don’t know. When I reminisce my mind rambles from here to there. I pick up bits and pieces of memories that are scattered all over my past. I sit at my keyboard typing things down at a steady rhythm not stopping until I’m through Times like this I come up with the thoughts and ideas of all that I write... So what you’re getting now is just mental jabber that may or may not lead some place. Believe it or not my best ideas come from moments like this.

This is something that I normally wouldn’t put into print but I thought it would be fun to show you how my mind really works. My thoughts and ideas are stimulated and motivated by past experiences brought back in memory while reminiscing. I can touch, smell, and taste all the memories I embrace Everything comes back to me so vividly that it’s like reliving each magic moment. For instance, I can remember when I was just a young lad I had a goat named Billy who use to pull me around in a little red wagon. Then there was my first real love, a little red headed girl with all kinds of freckles, her name was Joy Jarmen. Each one of these memories was simple and insignificant but they had a multitude of happy experiences attached to them. I could write a story about me and my Billy goat and another about my first attraction to the opposite sex.

It’s so wonderful, especially if you’re lonely at times, to relive the happy and what were to you the exciting memories of your past. There’s a story in each one of the experiences that you’ve had and literally hundreds unfold to you as you reminisce in the past. It’s said that when you’re about to die your whole life flashes through your mind in an instant. It’s remarkable how your mind can think about so many things all at the same time. Memories are all the treasures stored in your mind the parable being a library with thousands of books each one being a different event of your life. Can you just imagine if you were the author of all these books how many books you would have written? Just think? The entire wild adventures, the special events, the love stories, the mysteries, and the tragedies that would have all been written by you and stored in your own library. Mind boggling isn’t it? All of this . . . when you reminisce!


It sure doesn't hurt to get a little motivation to make your tasks easier. Just hitting on the right thought might do the trick. What I want to accomplish, while we’re at this stop, is put together thoughts and ideas, in no particular order, that stimulate your desire to change your way of thinking. This stop is only meant as place for comfort that will hopefully stimulate your thoughts as well as your actions. What I'm trying is an experiment using thoughts and ideas that came to me while meditating.

What I want to do for you, and I will, if you let me, is stimulate your thought process and motivate your desires. Getting started is the hardest part of any job. If you have the courage to start then with the proper motivation you will have the courage to finish.

Keep away from the people who want to belittle your ambitions, small people do that, but the really great make you believe that you too can be really great.

Don’t let frustrations caused by unresolved problems get you down? Life is full of problems that sometimes seem insurmountable. Nothing is impossible; you must stop, relax, and meditate then approach it from a different angle. If the answers don't come right away don't let it ruin your day, continue with your routine and come back later with a fresh outlook. Life is a process of finding solutions.

Each day a new door opens to all kinds of experiences and challenges. Meet the day with a smile and say to yourself that nothing no matter how big or how small will pass your attention. Meet all the challenges it brings head on and quench your thirst with its knowledge. Remind yourself that today will be a glorious day.

Here's a thought to carry with you today;

To achieve success in anything you need to start with a dream. Know your dream. Know why you are doing what you are doing. Create the fire that's needed to connect you with your dream. Create the passion you need in your pursuit of success. Create a desire to reach your achievements. Success can be yours if you have the courage to try. May your wishes all come true and they can it's all up to you.

The reward is yours but first you must labor, plant your thoughts and ideas, harvest them and watch them grow; remember you will sow in tears before you reap with joy. You can put your thoughts and ideas down in black and white or whatever color you prefer. You’ll find it fun and challenging and best of all easy. If you are like most the people I know you learn best by having someone show you the way. I won’t tell you what to do, I’ll show you how to do it and then it’s up to you.

Here is another one of my poems, Written about the power of words. I hope you find it motivating. I've always felt that by using the right words you could accomplish anything you put your mind to.

My Choice of Words

The right words used the right way

Could possibly save a life today.

By the same token words can leave a life broken

In the way that they’re written or spoken.

Handle all powerful words with great care.

The very same words bring happiness or despair.

These are just a few words I use every day.

I use these words to give meaning to what I say.

Love, compassion, understanding and care.

Peace, motivation, comfort, joy and prayer.

Smile, laughter, happiness and serenity.

I try my very best not to use profanity.

I use words that are simple and easy to say.

I try to make each word an impression in some way.

Sometimes without thinking I say the wrong thing.

My heart knows right away the hurt it will bring.

On this keyboard I type words for everyone to read.

I hope to give them meaning and some pleasure indeed.

I try to be careful in all that I say in my rhymes.

I want to touch your heart, activate and motivate your minds.

Songs, short stories, and poetry are my hobby you see.

They’re not the best but they come from the heart of me

If I can paint a picture that you can plainly see.

Then I've made all my words go to work for me

If the words that I use are truly what you’d like to hear.

And if they bring you comfort make you laugh and give cheer.

Then behind my keyboard you’ll find a man who is really content.

And I’ll know that my careful choice of words was well spent.


Here at this stop; I’ll teach you the power of visualization and assertion to create Luck. It all starts with imagination it is the birth of creation. Using your imagination you have the power to create an image of anything that you want. Can you just imagine how wonderful it would be if all your problems would vanish? Imagine if you will a peaceful and financial free life. Your imagination can create all kinds of things and with the proper techniques you can make these things happen.

I’m sure you wonder what individuals do, that give them the King Midas Touch. These people use this power in an unconscious manner in their everyday affairs. They are not aware that they are using some sort of power. They visualize their goals in a positive way and attain success. All successful people use it consciously or unconsciously. These people have tapped into a resource that makes luck happen and that is exactly what you and I are going do.

You can shape your reality; control your habits and gain control over the events that influence your life. It may sound incredible but believe me it’s true, imagination can help heal your body, change your way of thinking and bring God into your life.

I’m going to teach you two techniques that I often use to anchor my control (1) Affirmations (2) Visualization. I’ll show you how to use these techniques to reprogram your mind and reshape your attitudes and behavior, in other words, change the way you think.

(A) Affirmations

Affirmations are the art of using thoughts, beliefs and attitudes of the happiest, most effective people on earth by burning their thoughts into your subconscious mind. To feel how they feel, and do what they do and get exactly the same results they get.

(B) Creative Visualization

Creative visualization is the ability to use the imagination to see images in our minds and make them come true. Through concentrating, feelings, and emotions it can become a great creative power that makes all these things happen. Used in the right way, visualization can make magical changes into our lives.

Now, almost like magic, in every single area of your life, you can literally erase fear, doubt & frustration and replace it with courage, confidence & willpower. In other words, your mind can spawn amazing coincidences to move you towards your goals. The coincidences could be things that were seemingly unconnected to you and beyond your control. However you do have control and it is my intention to show you how to us it.

Here is an affirmation that I’m sure you have heard, " I am getting better and better…every day…in every way" but have you tried to place it in your unconscious mind. Repetition of thought will install this or any other affirmation.

Now I’m going to put you to the test and find out if you have been reading my book and using the steps that I have outlined. It’s of prime importance to go over these steps, practice them and memorize them. From the day you first opened my book or visited my site all the steps that I’ve taught you have become a part of your life and will remain a part of your life for the rest of your life. Keep reviewing all of my material until it is embedded deep in your unconscious mind. When you think you have it down pat review, don’t ever stop, keep reviewing. You are here, at this place in time, to change your life and you will if you follow my instructions.

(1) Do the relaxation and deep breathing exercise.

(2) Now do the exercise that puts your mind in the Alpha State.

(3) STOP; (Brake Time) Do this exercise just before bed time. Choose a place that is quite where you won’t be disturbed.

(4) START; Set up a timeline and place yourself in the present.


(5) Now put your mind back in the Alpha State. Visualize your timeline in a misty color. Look to the past and look to the future. See the color and hear the sounds of your different resource states. Anchor and move to the next step.

Note; We will use these affirmations A= I will always maintain a perfectly healthy body and mind. B= Positive thoughts, positive emotions, bring me all the benefits and advantages I desire. C= I am learning to use more of my mind and to use it in a better way.

You can also create your own affirmations; just make sure they’re a positive resource.

Timeline… Past______________Present______________Future

(7) Walk slowly to the past, observing the states you have placed. Return to the present. Slowly turn around and observe your entire timeline in color and sound.

(8) Now walk slowly to the future observing all of the resource states in color and sound. Return to the present. Brake State and Re-Anchor

(9) Move one step to the right and place your first affirmation, move right one more step and place your second affirmation, move right one more step and place your third affirmation.

(10) Break, Test Anchor, Observe you affirmations in misty color and sound. Move five years into the future and stack your affirmations. Give them color and sound. Return to the present. Look into the future and observe all of the positive resource states. See them in misty color and sound. BRAKE STATE

(11) Anchor, Now walk your time line into the past and into the future observing all of your thoughts and affirmations. See the colors, hear the sounds, lock them into your subconscious. BRAKE.

(12) CONGRATULATE YOURSELF… You have just taken some powerful steps to change your way of thinking.


Use your imagination for the visualization exercise. Close your eyes and visualize a movie screen six feet in front of you and four feet above the floor. Picture your mind as a projector that can project creative images on the screen. You can project anything that you want but make it something you wish for and desire.

Example: Let us say that your one great desire is to be a basketball star. Visualize yourself playing the game perfectly. See you making perfect moves and making every basket. Feel the joy of playing well and the excitement of winning. Project these images on the screen and mentally watch the game and marvel in you perfection.

If you have difficulty visualizing use a technique called streaming. In streaming you mentally describe what it is that you're seeing. Make the description as detailed as possible. For example if you're trying to visualize yourself in a luxury home mentally tell yourself, "I'm seeing a magnificent chandelier in my dining room with a highly polished solid oak floor. There is a light oak grand piano, just waiting to be played, sitting majestically in the south east corner. As you describe the image in detail you will find that the image also takes on more detail and your imagined image becomes more and more vivid.

You can combine your affirmations with your creative visualization to create a more powerful effect. As you're imagining your goal, simply repeat your affirmation mentally, as many times as you feel necessary. Don't be discouraged if you do not get immediate results. We are all at different levels of spiritual development and some of us have years of negative programming and negative belief systems to overcome. But overcome them you shall. Creative visualization can be such a powerful process when done at the Alpha level that just five minutes a day of practice can undo years of negative programming.

By now you have probably noticed how the exercises I use are all related. What I mean to say is they are all linked together and each new exercise introduces a new concept. For example I use the timeline to add resources, I use affirmation to burn the thoughts and ideas of other people into your subconscious mind, I use visualization to see images in our minds and make them come true, I use auto suggestion to change negative thoughts to positive thoughts and I use meditation to enhance new thoughts and ideas. All of these steps are used to change your way of thinking and I mix them as if I were making a hobo stew in a large cast iron pot. They are all powerful techniques when used alone but when used in combinations they become super powers. If I use them all together I have an exercise that delivers a massive explosion from our subconscious mind to our conscious mind.

This next exercise introduces a concept called Perceptual Positions. You’ve probably experienced this concept unconsciously but now you are going to learn how to use it consciously. I guarantee that it will increase your feeling of empowerment. Perceptual Positions is the ability to view experiences from different perspectives.

There are three definite Perceptual Positions. 1. Self Perspective: Seeing a situation through your own eyes and being aware of your own thoughts and feelings. 2. Perspective of Another: Seeing a situation through someone else’s eyes and being aware of their thoughts and feelings. 3. Disassociated Perspective Position: Seeing yourself from outside you. Imagine you are looking at yourself and other people from a position outside of yourself, from over there or up there.

Here’s the exercise;

(1) Imagine a situation that makes you uncomfortable.

(2) Paint a picture of that situation in your mind. Step outside the picture and look at yourself in the picture.

(3) Move the picture further away and notice how your feelings change. You should feel more comfortable and at ease. By being outside the situation looking at the situation you will experience a new perspective. Your feelings will change from negative to positive.

(4) remember another uncomfortable situation, another and another and do the same procedure on all three memories.

(5) Your unconscious mind will generalize this and do the same procedure automatically with future uncomfortable situations.

(6) Congratulate yourself you’ve just disassociated yourself from an uncomfortable (negative) situation.

(7) Now repeat the first six steps only this time deal with a positive situation. Imagine a wonderful experience.

Unless you have programmed your mind with prior exorcises this exercise my not work the first time. But don’t give up eventually you will rewire and make your life more enjoyable.

Success, whether measured in business, family or love, is often determined by the "right" attitude. Unfortunately, maintaining that proper frame of mind, a positive attitude, isn't always easy. Sometimes, in spite of our best efforts, life just seems intent on bringing us down. Inspiration, however, is rarely far away - if we are but willing to look for it.

No one is ever born into life alone. Everyone has shared the bond of family, at least at birth, and for many people it is a bond that will follow them throughout life. For many people it is the most important bond of all. No one person can ever experience all that life has to offer. It is only through sharing experiences, feelings and insights that we can hope to grow beyond our own meager lifetime.

My life has been drenched by the constant stream of people that come in leave their thoughts and ideas then quickly leave. People have deposit their love and understanding and a touch of their wisdom in my bank of memories.

Of course I’ve had those who leave broken hearts and lay out the fragment of their shattered lives these people have given me insight and let me gaze upon the beauty and the ugly found in each day.

All of these people have tattooed their footsteps right on my heart. To these people I owe the many values and structure that made me what I am today. I’m proud to be me and I thank all the people that made this a possibility. You are my ticket to peace and security.

I’m not what you would call a religious man but I do believe there’s a power much greater than mine. My God is a God who loves people from all walks of life. He loves his creations no matter what their religion or beliefs. We are special to him and he’ll give us a helping hand and help us to understand. Yes... My God lives in my heart and my soul and he’s always with me where ever I go. I don’t belong to any religion, I believe in all of them as far as they go. If you have a faith that you believe in and you live up to the doctrine that faith gives to you, you can’t help but find salvation. At least that’s the way my God feels.

My God lives in a room built inside my heart so he’s always with me whatever I do and where ever I go. When I do wrong he scolds me, corrects me and then he forgives me. Each day I speak to my God and ask him to guide me from harm’s way. Since he knows what I’m thinking and sees all that I do there’s never a need to pray. My God knows what I need and he guides me and directs me and keeps the devil away.

I love My God so I let him know and I thank him several times each day. No! I’m not a religious man and I don’t go to church. My God lives in my heart and when I found him that was the end of my search. I’m thankful that he still loves me in spite of my past and I know that he’ll be with me as long as eternity lasts.

Everyday is the anniversary of my sobriety. I’m so glad and happy that My God found room in his busy life to give me this gift. I’ve found peace and serenity and the freedom to be me.........

I live my life in loving service; being the best me I can, becoming wiser in the perfection of Divine Truth, becoming happier in the joy of living.

My brother Jimmy was a confirmed alcoholic and drug abuser and because I wouldn’t allow him to bring drinks and drugs into my home I wrote him this letter.

Dear Jimmy, My love for you is unconditional as a blood brothers love should be. I've worried about you and prayed to my God asking him for an answer that would relieve all your miseries. I've meditated for hours upon hours trying to figure out a way to help put you back in command of your life. If there was any way possible I'd step into your ora and straighten out all your problems for you, both you and I know that's impossible even though my intentions are sincere. Even though I really want to help you I can't allow myself to be misguided by compassion and shield you from the reality of your brunt errors. To do this would cause devastating results subsidizing failure. Let's face it Jim you are my brother and I don't want to see you fail.

Even though I'd gladly change places with you it wouldn't work because in my new role I'd find success and in your new role you'd fail. It's the hard truth that I'm telling you and I hope it's not too late for you to listen to me.

Through all my meditation and prayer it's become plain to me, that if you're ever going to find happiness, peace and serenity it's all up to you. You have to take complete control of your life and be the master of your own destiny. My doing this for you would only eliminate all your incentive and go against human nature. To give you love in the form of protection and comfort just might be the wrong thing to do.

You've been stumbling, falling and out of control for a very long time and I know you've sought help from a good many sources. Nothing has worked because you've been looking in all the wrong places. Motivation classes, treatment centers and all kinds of therapy are not the answer for you. The answer is so simple and I know you'll baulk when I give it to you. But listen to me anyway Jim, I've been there and I know.

The first thing you're are going to have to do, and I know you'll strongly resist, is re-except the God that you know. Once this is done then you can again become the master in control of your life. It's almost impossible to do this without God on your side and very improbable.

Being the master means you except responsibility for all things that have happened to you. Regardless of what has happened in your life except the fact that it was you that made it possible. No matter what our stance is in life, we are there because we were or we were not in command. I love you Jimmy but my unconditional love isn't enough, I have to be strong enough and relentless enough to give you strong and true love.

With a little common sense and a whole lot of faith all things are possible. Somewhere in the Bible there's a scripture that reads; "Be not deceived, God shall not be mocked, for what so ever a man soweth, that he shall also reap.’ And again it tutors, ‘in the furnace of affliction I shall refine thee." There's your answer Jimmy, you're a person with much more than average intelligence so you know dam well that I'm right. Love, Cash

Jimmy never received this letter because he had already died of a cause related to substance abuse. His untimely death caused me to dedicate my life to helping others succeed where he had failed. Thus I finally realized that God had saved my life so that I could save others.

Learning how to truly love a person or a people requires that we abandon schemes, which shield loved ones and collective society from every bruise, bump, storm, or roadblock along the road of life. For complete love is not blind and not stupid. Complete love accepts people as they are and administers to their needs with wisdom; a wisdom which dictates that sometimes the most compassionate answer to a plea for help is a firm and unflinching NO.

When I confessed to you that I was a recovered alcoholic I said I wasn’t going to tell my story. Well, that was then, this is now. I think we have worked hard enough to deserve a break and I really would like for you to read my life story. It may or may not have a therapeutic value. But it will give you a picture of where I’m coming from, where I’ve been; where I am now and where I am going. It is a short story and it won’t take you very long to read. I have written it my way because that is the only way I know. I hope it gives you some insight and pleasure.